Channel your Badass B/Witch Energy!

This post is in rebellion to all the many ways and forms, that we women have been forced to exist within the “Good Girl” Paradigm, myself included.

What is the “Good Girl” paradigm?

The good girl paradigm is an approach to women created by a patriarchal world view and system, that seeks to compel women to behave in a way that abides by the rules of patriarchy. These rules and behaviours that are allocated to the “good girl” syndrome are generations old and touch many different sections of a woman’s life.  Most importantly these rules have been created to control women, so we never become empowered, rebellious, and threatening to the patriarchal world view.

Here are some rules and expectations that the world and society have from a “good girl”

1. Good girls are submissive – to people higher up in hierarchical systems (Families, Corporations, Religious Organizations etc). Good girls don’t speak up or speak out for fear of being ostracised.
2. Good girls are sacrificial – They are willing to give up their own needs for the needs of their families and communities. They sacrifice their life for their children, their husbands, their work and their parents.
3. Good girls are not sexual – Forcing shame on our sexual nature, good girls do their very best to suppress and repress this aspect of themselves, always behaving “appropriately”
4. Good girls know to cover their bodies – Nowhere have women been exposed to more shame, than with our own precious beautiful bodies. So as a good girl, you ensure that you don’t wear clothing that can get you “raped” or “ogled” at
5. Good girls follow the norms of society – They recognize that their primary job in life to is to be married, have children and take care of their families. If they have permission to work or have a career, then that is an extra blessing. Good don’t break the rules.
6. Good girls don’t create trouble – They listen, even obey those higher up in hierarchical order.
7. Good girls are helpers – No matter, what the cost, the good girl will put her hand up to help others. Above all she is nice, polite, and respectful. So often we see women in organizations doing majority of the unpaid work such as organizing events, meetings, birthdays parties etc.

The result of trying to submit to these norms and expectations for us girls and women, has been low self-esteem and confidence in women. We are constantly fighting with ourselves trying to fit into this mould, when deep inside our souls know that this is not the truth.

I invite all the women, to break free from the “Good Girl” mould and become a “Badass bitch or a Badass witch instead!

Here are some guidelines and invitation on how to channel your badass b/witch energy. I know the mere term “badass b/witch” will make some of you recoil, because “good girls” don’t use language that is profane 🙂 Let go of resisting, flow with me for a bit, and practice channelling this energy for one day, and see how it feels.

Rules “bad ass b/witches” live by:

1. Badass b/witches are rebellious – We challenge what is expected from us with the use of our mind, body and soul. We only accept what feels right for us and resonates with our inner knowing and witchy intuition.
2. Badass b/witches love themselves radically and unconditionally – We let go of criticizing themselves all the time, let go of trying to be perfect, let go of people pleasing
3. Badass b/witches know how to draw boundaries – We say NO to people. We cannot give to others if our cup is empty. As a badass b/witch we recognize we are not sacrificial lambs.
4. Badass b/witches embrace their sexuality – I am a woman, the creatrix with a womb, with the most powerful amazing natural talent and ability, to receive semen and turn it into a human being! Sexuality is part of our essence.
5. Badass b/witches love their bodies and souls – We dress how we want, wear what makes us feel comfortable and beautiful. We don’t care about what people think and say.
6. Badass b/witches create their own norms and rules on how to live life – We create structures and systems around relationships, self-care and work that feel right for us, we don’t simply follow what is imposed on us by our social, religious, or cultural conditioning.
7. Badass b/witches speak up – We don’t submit to or accept bad behaviour. We speak up against it, we speak up for the weak, the needy, the challenged, and we speak up for ourselves, even when it might create some trouble.

Badass b/witches are highly intelligent and confident. We have high self-esteem and love ourselves enough to know when not to submit or tolerate patriarchal rules and behaviours.

As a writer and coach, I write this article because I have made the journey from the “good girl” to badass b/witch. And it wasn’t an easy journey, but having done that, it gives me the ability to empower and transform so many other women, so they can take care of their own life force and power.

In no way or form, am I or any badass b/witch ever disrespectful, unloving, or unkind to others. In fact, in learning to honour, love and respect my own self first and foremost, my ability to honour, love and respect all others has massively multiplied. But I know when and how to say No, when to speak up, and have the wisdom when not to enter the battlefield, however inviting it may look!

If you want to transform yourself as a woman or a woman leader and channel more badass b/witch energy, then I would love to work with you. Please book an initial call here.

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